You’ve probably read a self-help book on how to fix a problem in your life. And if not a book, you’ve certainly clicked on an article that’s promised to cure whatever’s currently ailing you.

And that makes sense—striving to improve yourself is awesome. But, is it also making you feel like you’re just not enough? Or that you have more problems than you can solve? If so, you’re not alone.

In this video, our favorite real-talk career guru Marie Forleo gives three tips on how to change your perspective on self-help (and therefore, get more from it!).